Act like a Lady. Think like a Man

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Act like a Lady. Think like a Man

Steve Harvey was a guest on Oprah to talk about his book “Act Like a Lady. Think Like a Man.” What’s it all about? Dominique Masson interprets...

I got home on a rare Friday afternoon in time to catch Oprah. I made a cup of green tea and sat on the couch.

The credits roll and… it was one of my least favourite segments of Oprah: Friday Live or something like that. Where she has her best friend Gayle and two other celebs commenting on stuff that often is very American. However something catches my attention before I switch off the TV (to check Facebook of course).

Funnyman Steve Harvey is due on the show to talk about his book Act like a Lady. Think like a Man

Immediately I flash back to his typical movies. Yes, he is a funny man, but what does he know about this subject? In a lot of his movies he is, well, a bit of a player.

At first I think the title is a bit sexist

 Think like a man? What is he saying? I am NOT going to think like a man! Most of them drive me batty! I am intrigued! What is this man going to come up with? So I watch.

I am struck by his funniness as he talks to Oprah and Gayle (the other schlebs are off filming something or other, you know, as one does).

Women have lowered their standards

But, as I listen, his at first comedic brashness reveals some pearls of wisdom that strike home.

Paraphrasing I am because it is Sunday and I haven’t yet had time to buy and read his book, the gist is: Women have dropped their standards.

At first as I heard this I was aghast. “No we haven’t!” I thought. “Look at what women are achieving!” was another thought. As I listened further to his reasoning my opinion changed.

Perhaps we have dropped the bar in some respects. Let me explain:

Today women are able to do anything. We can change a tyre (perhaps only in theory), we can run conglomerates, boards, companies and still raise and care for families.

Never before have women been so able to write the script of their lives in such totality. Not just a mother, wife and daughter, we can also be the boss, the politician, the groundbreaker, the scientist, and the researcher and still retain that wonderful feminine essence that is so precious and unique.

Or do we?

We have raised the bar in terms of access to ambition and personal fulfillment but dropped the bar when it comes to men

This is the gist of what Steve Harvey was saying.

How often do we settle for less than what we want? We make excuses for bad behaviour.

“Shame, he has baggage…” “He hasn’t had an easy life so I can expect that he might not be as emotionally available as I need…” “And then deeper down: “Maybe he is as good as it gets. I can’t risk throwing this away. What if...?”

Funnyman Steve Harvey says “No! Raise the bar!”

If a man is worth you he will rise to meet the challenge. Don’t drop your standards out of fear.” And I think that is so important.

I am all for having an awesome and adventurous single life until someone comes along that is willing to meet my expectations. We all deserve that!

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Author info: Dominique Masson

Dominique is a Creative Producer and scriptwriter for Viva Hecate Productions, a company specializing in Edutainment. She has a passion for empowering people to reach their dreams and realize that anything is always possible. Writing and the work she does at Viva Hecate Productions allows her to express this passion and hopefully inspire and motivate! Www.vivahecate.com or email her at Dominique@vivahecate.com.

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Lisa Wood on 01 March, 2010 11:10:56
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Please let me know if this is available as a download.... I really need to read it!
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Virginia on 24 September, 2009 08:46:01
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please send me details on downloading this book asap, I greatly appreciate it, I am so excited to read it. Thank you again on you insite and information. I didn't know this book was out there. My e-mail address is vchance77@yahoo.com.
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KC on 24 August, 2009 09:43:03
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Please send link i would be most greatful email address cyanide.cunningham1@gmail.com
Thank you once again :) heard this book is unbelievable!!! Cant wait to read it.
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Zama on 20 August, 2009 12:57:14
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I love the book to bits and am half through reading. Its very informative and funny because you are sure to relate to it somehow. I just wish for everybody to read it.women and men alike
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Romilla on 20 August, 2009 10:46:24
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Please send me the details on downloading a copy of this interesting book....many thanks
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Phindie on 20 August, 2009 10:34:17
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I'm glad he wrote that book, it's about time someone opens our eyes. I remember dating a guy and he told me he was in a 4 year relationship previously and thought to myself, what was this woman doing all these years because this guy has no idea how to show appreciating to a woman. anyway, thanks Steve Harvey:)
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Norma Ferguson on 20 August, 2009 09:52:25
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Please sent me the details on downloading a copy of this very special book...Many thanks
my email address is: norma.ferguson@za.ey.com
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Cloe on 20 August, 2009 09:48:49
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Fantastic, and I concur! We do settle, I waited 12 years to get what I wanted in a man, I wasn't going to settle for second best, "man" was he worth the wait!! Great work cuz, awesome piece of writing once again :)
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Candice on 19 August, 2009 04:56:53
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To the people downloading this book - if its free and pirated - shame on you - go spend the bucks and get yourself a hardcopy!
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SP on 19 August, 2009 04:38:40
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to Molebogeng, Can you send me details on downloading a copy, thanks. My e-mail address is sallyperumal@hotmail.com
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