13 Jun 2012
Everything happens at the right time, date and place, or so Indian astrology would have us believe. Choosing a wedding date comes down to much more than "I want to be a winter bride".
Oh yes, it's true: there are a million factors to consider before you tie the knot - the most important being the date you choose.
It all stems from that one minor detail
Let's face it, until you've set a wedding date there's not really much you can do. No date = no venue booking = no catering booking = no ideas on the weather = no idea at all! So it's probably the smartest place to start when deciding to plan your big day.
Unfortunately it all boils down to more than what you'd like to do for an Indian bride-to-be
I had it all mapped out - we'd get married on 23 March, 2013. It would be perfect! Not too hot (especially with Durban's humidity), not too busy (so most of our relatives would be able to make it) and most importantly, surrounded by amazing public holidays. I'd have my mendhi ceremony on Thursday the 21st, a public holiday, we'd get married on the Saturday and then go off on honeymoon. A honeymoon that would have an entire Easter weekend in it. Fabulous right? Wrong!
Sometimes you don't get the luxury of what you want when you want it
Before a Hindu couple gets married they need to consult "the book" or rather the person with the book - the pundit. Learned and wise, the pundit is well versed in Indian astrology and spends many a day finding favourable and suitable dates and times for people to make big changes to their lives.
The idea behind this is that if you start something off at a favourable time, it will be blessed
Starting things off on a good note? While some may think it's archaic or superstitious, it's treated quite scientifically and makes a lot of sense. Everything in life (including your birth) is not an accident. It's all controlled by fate so when considering a big decision like buying a new home or car or getting married, you start at your birthdate and work from there.
To cut a long story short, my March 23rd plan has gone awry
Turns out it falls within two of the most inauspicious periods of the year. So we've been told to get married on 28 April, 2013. And at least my original afternoon wedding time stays intact. Thank goodness too - I had visions of getting up at the crack of dawn to look presentable rather than dream-bride like!
At least now I have a month extra to plan!
You know what they say: everything happens for a reason and all in good time - definitely true!